The start of a new year is an excellent opportunity to take stock of your habits and determine what you want to change to improve your life. Below is a list of 18 things conservative women need to stop doing and leave behind in 2018.

  1. Apologizing

All too often, women apologize for unintentional errors. It’s a technique used to avoid conflict, but this behavior shines a negative light on you when you’ve done nothing wrong. If you do make a mistake that warrants an apology, do so politely then move on.

  1. Judging other women

Whether it’s in class or on social media, women have a bad habit of judging one another. Stop criticizing another female’s looks, job, or belongings. There’s already enough forces to fight against in this world, we don’t need to be fighting with each other.

  1. Feeling like an impostor when you accomplish something professionally

As a female working in a political senior staff position, I can tell you imposter syndrome is so real. This concept refers to the belief held by many women in leadership positions that they are a fraud that somehow managed to move up into a position that they aren’t qualified for. This is a lie! If you’ve ever felt this way, please know that you have nothing to be embarrassed about and are perfectly capable of doing the job you’ve been given.

  1. Saying yes to everything

Stop spreading yourself so thin because you can’t do it all. Take on commitments slowly and complete them with quality before tackling the next challenge.

  1. Disliking Democrats just because they are Democrats

This has got to stop. Both male and female Republicans are guilty of instinctively forming a negative impression of someone once they learn they have different political views. We all need to realize that just because they come from a different political party, they’re not evil people. Believe it or not, both Republicans and Democrats want the same thing. We all want better schools, more jobs, and safer neighborhoods. We just have different opinions on the best way to accomplish that.

  1. Setting deadlines for major life events

This one is especially hard to avoid this time of year. Scanning through social media, I’ve seen so many of my friends announce engagements and pregnancies. Of course, I’m happy for them. But, the little voice in the back of my head starts asking when it will be my turn. We must stop comparing ourselves to everyone around us and focus on our own path.

  1. Not speaking up

Women have a habit of staying quiet when they should be speaking up. If you have a question, speak up and ask it (even if you think it’s dumb). If you have an opinion on a decision being made, share it. Women provide a unique viewpoint and it’s time we let our voices be heard.

  1. Being embarrassed by your interests and passions

As females, we’re often led to believe that our interests should be restricted because of our gender. Enough is enough. If you’re interested in coding, don’t shy away from it. If you’re passionate about helping the environment, embrace it. Stop apologizing for who you are.

  1. Being inappropriate on social media

This one should have been left in 2017, but here we are still talking about it. Social media is not your personal diary! Twitter is not the place to subtweet about your ex-boyfriend. If you want to be taken seriously in the political world or by your future employers, vent to your friends not your followers.

  1. Striving for perfection

Being a perfectionist wastes time and hurts your productivity. It’s important to do a good job, but sweating the details will hurt your performance in school and in your career.

  1. The term “fake news”

Yes, we all know the media is biased. It always has been. But let’s drop this overused phrase.

  1. Complaining

Stop complaining, it’s not cute. Everyone has hard stuff going on. Don’t fill the silence with your inconveniences.

  1. Belittling yourself or your position

All work is noble. Don’t let other people’s opinion of you shape your view of yourself. Be proud of who you are and where you’re at in your journey.

  1. Waiting to be given what you want

No one will know what you want until you ask. This applies to your professional and your personal life. If you’ve been working at the same job for a while and want a raise, ask for it. Having a conversation about what you want won’t rock the boat, it’ll get you closer to your goals.

  1. Pretending to be dumb

Don’t pretend to be dumb for attention. We’re all actually really intelligent. It’s time we start acting like it.

  1. Needing to be liked

Let me preface this by saying that being a decent and likable person is useful. After all, we enjoy having coworkers and classmates that are easy to get along with. However, needing to be liked by everyone is not a good trait to have. When you try to please everyone around you to be liked, you often don’t prioritize yourself or your own needs.

  1. Procrastinating

You have 24 hours in your day. Beyoncé has 24 hours in her day. No more excuses for procrastinating.

  1. Living in the past

We are approaching the beginning of a new year which means it’s time to leave the past behind. Don’t let whatever heartbreaks or disappointments you experienced this year carry over into 2019.

This next year has the potential to be your greatest year yet. Take a look at where you are currently and where you want to be at the end of 2019 and commit to leaving bad habits behind and making the changes needed to get where you want to be.

Erica E
CABINET