There comes a time in some friendships when you realize that you need to say goodbye. That’s just reality. Of course, it is never easy to lose someone who has played a pivotal role in your life. You deserve to put yourself first and stop letting others tear you down. The quality of your friends is a lot more important than the quantity of your friends. If you think you may be in a toxic friendship, here are 5 subtle signs that it may be time to move on.
It’s overly competitive
There is nothing wrong with healthy competition from your friends. I love when my friend’s successes motivate me to do more or be better, but when you have a friend who is constantly trying to compete with you in every facet of life, it may be a friend you want to lose. Having a friend who always wants to one-up you is aggravating. It can cause unnecessary tension and insecurities. If you have a friend responding to positive victories in your life with bragging, jealousy, or becoming defensive about their own life, maybe your friendship should be reevaluated.
You can’t be yourself
One of the best things about friendship is that you can be who you truly are without judgement. When you notice that you are having to hide your views, likes, dislikes, hurts, and passions from your friend, it might be time to move on. Nothing good comes from a friendship where you can’t be upfront and honest. You want people in your inner circle who accept you as you are and love you for being that person.
You are constantly complaining about them
Every friendship goes through rough spots, but if you are always complaining about how your friend treats you, makes you feel, or talks to you, why continue to waste your time on someone that is only bringing you down? That is the complete opposite of what a friend is. When you constantly talk about your friend, you are just continuing to give them power over your feelings.
You always feel uptight or stressed when you’re around them
No real friend would always make you feel stressed when you are talking to them or around them. A friend who makes you feel stressed out about life is the type of friend that you do not need. If you feel the pressure to talk a certain way or act a certain way because you don’t way to be the odd person out or lose your friends, you are doing yourself a disservice by not choosing to end the friendship.