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From the moment we’re born, moms teach us a lot about life. My mom has taught me so much in my short life, and I’m so thankful for the lessons I’ve learned from her. So, thank you, mom, for being the amazing person you are, and passing on some of your wisdom to me.
1) If you hurt someone’s feelings, apologize.
From the time I was young, my mom always said “it doesn’t matter what you meant, if you hurt someone’s feelings, apologize.” Words have so much power. Sometimes we don’t realize just how much one statement can stay with someone. There are times where we mean absolutely nothing by a certain comment, but it truly cuts the other person to the core. I love the line “if someone tells you that you’ve hurt them, you don’t get to tell them that you didn’t” and I think it’s so applicable here. It’s best to apologize, and try to explain what you meant. A simple apology has the power to heal and save a relationship.
2) Don’t wear white after Labor Day.
This one might seem silly, but I really do live by this rule. White after Labor Day just seems wrong. Now, I’m not bashing anyone who can pull this off, because believe me, there are girls who rock it– I’m just not one of them. I love a winter white sweater or corduroys, but pure white and I are not friends between Labor Day and Memorial Day.
3) You don’t get something for nothing.
Whether it’s in a relationship, shopping, or an online ad, this is so true. You don’t get something for “free.” There’s always a stipulation, or some work that has to go into it. Buy one get one “free” isn’t truly free. There’s no such thing as a “free magazine subscription.” Your Prince Charming won’t just come and sweep you off your feet, creating a perfect relationship with no effort on your part. Everything in life requires either time, money, or hard work. Knowing that, I’ve gone into everything in life with clear eyes understanding that if I wanted something, I would have to work for it.
4) If you line things up with God, He’ll line things up for you.
Perhaps one of the most true lessons my mom has ever taught me. When you line things up with God, seek and listen to His guidance, and truly live in Him, life seems to fall into place more easily. Relationship are less forced. Job offers work out. Friendships flourish. It’s amazing to see the things that God does in your life when you’re living in Him and for Him.
5) Honor your father and mother.
My mom didn’t speak this lesson to me, but lived it out. When I was young we lived far away from my grandparents, but every break from school was spent visiting them. Now that my grandfather has passed away, and my grandma is older, my mom is her caregiver. For many years she lived with my Uncle, but now she lives with my parents, and seeing my mom take care of her mom with love, compassion, understanding, and kindness is truly a blessing. My dad is also a truly wonderful, thoughtful caregiver to my grandma, and has showed me the importance of marrying a man who not only loves me, but loves my family, but I’ll get to that. Seeing how my parents have taken care of their parents and honored them has taught me that when you do so God truly will bestows blessings on you.
6) Have friends of all ages.
From the time I was young, my mom has always taken me to meet with her friends. From my Auntie Lois and Aunt Sonja who are my mom’s age, to my Uncle John who is 10 years older, to my Grammie Marion and Grandpa Labib who are her parents age, my mom has friends of all ages. The friends that are her age are the ones she can enjoy life with and reminisce on when they were young. Her friends who are slightly older provide insight into the battleground of life and some perspective on life situations, while her much older friends provide wisdom and love. I’m blessed to say that her friends have also become my friends, and some of the most important people in my life outside of my family -as you can tell by what I call them. She’s shown me that having friends of all ages is important because through them God provides for us what we need at each stage of our life.
7) No one ever became poor by giving.
This is another lesson my mom never said, but lived out. My mom is a giver. A giver of time, love, energy, food, friendship, kind words, whatever anyone needs. As long as I can remember she has given 100% to anyone who asked. While I’m sure it tires her out, she never complains. Whether it’s having a home full of people, helping one of her students, or sewing a dress for me, she always has time, and she always does it with a smile. She has never become less by giving part of herself to someone else, and has never lost who she is for it. She has never become poor by giving because God has honored her sacrifice and servant’s heart with an abundance of whatever she needs.
8) Marry a man who loves you and your family
I’ve had my fair share of boyfriends. I’ll be candid in saying that not all of them got along with my family. Seeing how my dad has interacted with my grandparents, and my mom’s family, over the years has shown me how important it is to marry a man who loves me and my family. My dad has always understood and respected how important my mom’s family is to her. He has never once prevented her from seeing them even though they live far away, and he always welcomes them to our home. Even now, my grandma lives with us full time, and my dad helps take care of her. He takes her out to lunch, buys her her favorite treats, and even helps get her medications ready every week. I know that when my parents were dating, my mom looked to see how my dad interacted with her family. She married him because she loved him, but also because he loved her family. Now that I’m older and moving into the stage of my life where I’m looking for a life partner, I understand how important it is for me to marry someone who loves my family as much as I do.