To the girl reading this,

You are unique. You are special. There is no one else in the world like you, and you should always remember that. Never let anyone tell you that you are subpar or inadequate.

The world is a difficult place to understand. Whether you are struggling with school, a job, a difficult relationship, or whatever it is that life is throwing at you, you will come out on top. Stop saying “I can’t” and start saying “I can.” Why? Because if you believe you can, you’re halfway there.

You go through life saying “I can’t” to anything you don’t want to do, or really can’t do, but is that true? Sure, school can get tough, but you have overcome other academic endeavors. Sure, work can get tough, but you overcame your last project. All of the little obstacles that you have faced in your life have built up to this one. The same ones you once said you “could not do.”

If you really cannot do it, do you think you would have been told to do it? Probably not. The mindset you have going into something determines the success you will have with it. So, start telling yourself you can do it and you will be surprised at the results. Never give up because, if you do, you could be missing out on a life-changing experience. Why wouldn’t you want to see what this difficult task could do to potentially enrich your life?   

You just need that one little bit of courage to reach for your goal, to complete your projects, to turn your can’ts into cans. That first step is always the hardest, especially when you do not think you can do it or do not want to. Maybe someone is intimidating you, maybe something is on the line at work, or maybe you are just scared, but no matter what it is, just take the first step. Once you do, it will get easier from there on out.

Prove to yourself that you can do something that you once thought you could not do. Prove to yourself that you have it in you to do something that others think you cannot do. Put the negativity out of your mind and reach for your goals. Prove to yourself that no matter how many people doubt you, you can and will rise to the occasion. Be careful not to do this for anyone else but yourself, though.

Never ever give up. With just a little courage and determination, you will be surprised at what you can do. Keep your head up and your spirits high. Be a role model for others that had the same mindset that you did. Be a voice for them. Help them overcome what you had to overcome. Help them make their first step toward their goal, but don’t forget about yours. You can turn your can’ts into cans and help others do the same.