I joined a sorority when I was a second semester freshman and am now beginning my senior year.  Sorority recruitment is a great time, but can also be extremely stressful – for both sides. While I go to a smaller school, our recruitment is a little different. However, many of the aspects are the same as recruitment at bigger schools. 

With recruitment season upon us, here is a complete guide for potential new members (PNMs), including what the rounds typically are like, what to wear at each one, and conversation topics. Enjoy.

Day 1: Open House Day

A woman, generally known as a Rho Gamma or Pi Chi, will lead your group from house to house. This designated woman has temporarily disaffiliated from her sorority chapter to improve potential new members’ recruitment experience. She is there to help the PNMs through the recruitment process.  She can answer any questions or concerns you might have.  During this first day, you’ll visit all sorority houses on campus.  You will generally talk to some sisters and probably hear a speech or two from women that hold positions in the sorority, such as the recruitment chair and President.

What to wear: It’s always best to overdress for recruitment. For this round, dress like you’re going shopping or going to lunch with a friend. This could be a cute pair of shorts or jeans with a nice top. You can wear cute flats, boots or sandals.  Make sure they are comfortable, because you may be walking a lot. Keep your jewelry and make-up simple.

Day 2: House Tours Day

The houses you visit on the second day are less than the number of houses you visited on the previous day.  Through recruitment, it is a mutual selection process.  You drop sororities off your list.  Sororities drop PNMs off of theirs. Because there are less houses to go to, this means you’ll be at each house a little bit longer. You’ll talk to a few different sisters and get to know the chapter a little more.  You might see a presentation on something such as their philanthropy, dues, etc.

What to wear: You’ll want to get a little dressier for each round.   On this day, I would recommend a sundress, or a skirt, shorts, and nice top. Wedges or flats are best for this round.

Day 3: Skit Day

Again, this round you will have even less houses to go to due to the selection process.  Some schools don’t do skits. This day could also be Philanthropy day at some schools – where each chapter will share their philanthropy with you.  If your school does do skit day; however, you’ll get to see some of the sisters perform. This is a great way to see the personality of the chapter and how the sisters bond with each other. It’s a great way to see if you could see yourself in their chapter.  

What to wear: For this round, a sundress with wedges and statement jewelry is perfect for this round.

Day 4: Preference Rounds Day

This is the most serious round.  It is the last time you see the chapters before making your decision. Preference Day varies depending on what university you go to.  At some schools, you will just talk to one girl the whole time.  At other schools, you might have interviews or a ceremony. Preference rounds are always about the traditions and rituals of the chapter. At the close of this day, you will rank two or three sororities in order of where you would most like to become a sister.

What to wear: This is the most formal round. A classy dress, nice heels and a pearl necklace are perfect for pref.

Day 5: Bid Day 

This is the most exciting day—you find your home away from home. You will only get a bid from one sorority.  This is the chapter you’ll be invited to become a new member in. It’s so exciting. You get to run home to your sisters that you will spend the rest of college, and life, with.

So what else should I expect?

During the first two rounds of recruitment, you’ll generally keep things pretty simple.  Both parties are simply trying to get to know each other.  It may seem repetitive after a couple of houses, but don’t let it show – even if it’s a house you know you don’t want to join.  This can come across as if you’re uninterested.  The Greek circle is very small.  Coming across disinterested at one house could hurt you at another house.  You never know who knows who.  

What do I talk about? 

First off, be yourself.  You want to be true to yourself and end up in a chapter you truly feel at home at.  The chapter you are meant to be in will love you for you.

Talk about are your hometown, major, and if you’re involved in anything else on campus. Bring up something interesting about yourself or something you did over the summer—it will make you stand out and be more memorable.

Try to ask questions about that specific chapter. You’ve heard about their philanthropy, events, sisterhood, etc., so find out more about them. 

The conversation should be the heaviest during pref. Talk about what drew you to their chapter, and why you want to be a part of it. This round is to seal the deal.

Big No-nos

Do not talk about drinking, drugs or excessive partying.   I know this may seem like you’re adapting into the college scene, but chapters want to see well-rounded young ladies involved in all facets of their community, campus, etc.  Talking how intoxicated you got at a frat party the past weekend will be a big turn off to a sorority.  

Do not make references about other chapters or how bad you want to be in a different sorority.  Also, do not talk negatively about another chapter.  This may seem like it will show loyalty to the chapter you will really want, but it isn’t.

Don’t get too controversial. There’s nothing wrong with telling them that you’re passionate about the conservative movement, are a part of the FFL family, or that you go to church every Sunday—those are obviously all things that are a big part of your life. However, don’t get deep into controversial topics, like who you’re voting for and your views on specific issues. Those are things you can get into when you’re sisters.

Happy recruitment and best of luck. 

Jessica M
FFL Contributor
Jessica is a student at Shippensburg University pursuing a bachelor’s in Public Relations. She is a lover of all things pink & sparkly, going to church every Sunday morning, puppies & pigs, and Netflix binges. She is fiercely patriotic and hopes to have another president like Ronald Reagan. She has a southern state of mind and plans on moving to the South someday!

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