When you’re single, it can seem like everyone is either in a relationship or overly-eager to get into one. It can be exhausting when family asks you at every year at a holiday get-together if you have a boyfriend and the answer is always “no.” While this all may seem discouraging, being single is not at all a negative thing. If you are a woman waiting for the one that you’ll do life with, this is for you.

A golden rule of being single: Don’t waste your time wondering and chasing those who do not deserve your attention. We may catch ourselves daydreaming about what’s to come and who we’ll marry. Focus your time and energy on family, friends, helping others, and achieving your own personal goals. Instead of filling your mind with empty thoughts, make memories with loved ones and enjoy every moment of what life has to offer.

While it is easy to grow impatient, do not settle. It’s not healthy to obsessively pick and choose what you want in a person, but have a general idea of who you want to spend the rest of your life with. Keep in mind that we are only human; each person has their personal flaws, quirks, and habits. Instead of focusing on these, truly think of things that are significant: are they a good listener, for example. Look for these characteristics in those you date. If someone is lacking in an area that is genuinely important to you, be aware of this. Dating someone who you know will not be long-term is disrespectful to both you and the other person. Do not settle for someone who does not fill those important needs that you’re looking for in a relationship – it only hurts both parties.

Take advantage of this time that you have. Now is the time to live life how you want to without having to consult a partner about every detail of your life – this is something to appreciate. Use this abundance of time wisely: to achieve your goals, travel, and spend too much time with your best friend watching 90’s rom-coms – all because you can. When you are in a relationship, you are on a team that you must make decisions with. For now, it’s all you.

Use this time to grow into the best person that you can be. I have lived on this Earth for twenty years and I still learn new things about myself each day. As a single woman, you have all the time in the world to focus on you and the ones you love. Take time each day to truly reflect on who you are, who you want to be, and how you’ll get there. Someone will pop into your life when the time is right. When that person does show up, don’t you want to be the best version of you?

Lastly, do not sell yourself short. Being single does not mean being un-dateable. Being single means that right now, you’re doing life without a significant other, something completely normal. Know your worth and let it show in how you carry yourself. Take each step with pride, confidence, and strength knowing that you are worth love and don’t have to settle for any less. Wait for your future lover excitedly, but not eagerly. Be patient in knowing that your plan is unraveling, but do not rush the journey. There is good in each day, whether you are in a relationship or not. Keep waiting, keep working on yourself, and keep dedicating time to the people and things that matter most.

Jennifer D.
Jennifer Duplessie is a senior at Texas A&M University pursuing a Bachelor of Science degree in Political Science. After graduation, she hopes to pursue a career in political communications incorporating her passion for writing and photography.

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