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Every little girl dreams about her wedding. Most young women today plan their wedding on their Pinterest boards. After getting engaged in May, I was so excited to finally start planning my wedding. Images of grandeur filled my head imagining what my dress, cake, venue, flowers, and bridal party would look like. I started looking up first dance songs, and trying to nail down a date. After about 6 months of wedding planning, I’ve come to realize there’s a lot of things pop culture doesn’t tell you about planning your wedding.

Everyone and their mother will expect to be invited

I’ve had more than one person assume they were going to be invited to my wedding. Let me tell you, that is not a comfortable conversation. Like it or not, venues have capacity limits and parents have budgets. While my parents are blessed, it’s not realistic to have a 500 person wedding. Learning how to maneuver your way around this issue will benefit you more than you realize.

Premarital counseling is crucial.

I know you think your fiance is completely perfect, but on the off chance they have one tiny flaw, it’s best to work that out before you walk down the aisle. It might sound silly, but going to a premarital counselor before you say “I do” can help avoid major issues later.

Stamps are expensive.

This might sound silly, but everything needs postage: save the dates, invitations, response cards, and thank you notes. If you have a lot invitations going out, you’re going to end up spending hundreds on postage. Be prepared.

It’s ok to give yourself time.

Don’t rush this process. While 6 months might sound like enough time to plan a wedding, a lot of vendors book up 9-12 months in advance. Unless you’re in a time crunch, 9-18 months is the average time for an engagement so don’t feel rushed to the altar.

There are a ton of unexpected details.

Everyone knows about the big items: flowers, cake, dress, venue, food, but favors, lighting, and chairs are important, too. Not to mention the price tag associated with everything. It might just seem like $50 here and $75 there, but those small items can add up to more than even the big ticket items if you’re not careful.

Not every detail is important.

Since every aspect of wedding planning is insanely expensive, it’s okay to sacrifice on some aspects to get the big picture you’re going for. Your favors don’t have to be extravagant. You probably don’t need those chair covers. Honestly, no one is going to remember your bouquet. So, take it easy and enjoy the process.

Creating a wedding registry takes forever.

Even though my fiance and I only registered at two stores, it still took quite a while to get everything onto our list. We truthfully had no idea how much we didn’t have until we started looking. Remember, you’re starting your lives together. You can’t just take your parents sheets and pillows with you, so scan, scan, scan.

Choosing your bridesmaids is harder than you expect.

You don’t realize how many close friends you have until you have to decide who will stand up there with you. When you pick your bridesmaids remember they are the ones who will help you celebrate the biggest day of your life. Oh, and don’t forget, wedding pictures are forever.

Wedding colors aren’t that important.

I cannot tell you how many times someone has asked “what are your colors?” While I have a certain look I’m going for, I’ll take bets that no one outside the bridal party would know my colors unless I told them. If you love that purple flower but its not “in your colors,” who cares? Pick flowers and dresses and decor that speak to you or match a theme you like – the colors will come later.

Picking the date can be tricky.

Birthdays, anniversaries, and work schedules all have to be taken into account when planning your wedding. While your big day is your big day, don’t forget that the people who are there are the ones who will make the memories with you.

The most important part of planning the wedding is you & your fiance, and enjoying being engaged.

Play this to yourself on repeat. The season of engagement is so short and so beautiful. Don’t take this time for granted. Don’t be so obsessed with having a bomb wedding that you forget what you’ll have when that day ends: a marriage. Pour into your fiance, grow together, and enjoy being engaged. You’ll be married before you know it.

Corrie L
FFL Cabinet Member
Corrie is a Cabinet Member at FFL. She is passionate about coffee, Jesus, and lipstick, and never wears white after Labor Day. If she isn't busy talking about law school or FFL, you can find her studying constitutional law or reviewing a contract. Her plan A is Super Mom turned Supreme Court Justice, and she hopes to one day be just like Sandra Day O"Connor.

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