Today it may seem like everyone is either in a relationship or simply cannot be alone. Between texting and social media at our fingertips, we don’t ever have to be. We live in the booming age of technology and innovation which ideally increases communication and standard of living for all. However, I believe that there is a downfall of co-dependency. At times, I have felt out of touch with my generation when it comes to being “overly-independent.” This letter is dedicated to my fellow independent women.

It must first be said that independence is not a burden, but rather a strength. When nothing is holding you back, you can do virtually anything that you please. Too many times I have seen people held back by the fear of being alone. Whether this be attending an out-of-state university or traveling for an internship, you must trust yourself to take off and succeed even if it means being migrating away from the herd. Growth begins once you step aside from your own comfort zone.

Know yourself, and know yourself well. There will be times where you must be your own best friend. Know when you need to be alone and when you need a friend to lean on. Know how to cheer yourself up after an atrocious day and how to reward yourself when feeling accomplished. Understanding who you are and what you need is vital to being healthily independent.

When all of your friends are in relationships or you just want to “find the one,” remember that you can be your own relationship goals. Relying on others will only get you so far – you are always there for yourself. Treat, cherish, and love yourself. Taking good care of you takes time and effort – remind yourself that it’s okay to be selfish when it comes to taking alone time. When you feel confident in your own skin, you will perform better in life overall.  

This is not to say that you cannot be both independent and in a relationship. When pursuing a love interest, it must be understood by the other party that you are independent. Find someone who does not underestimate your ability to succeed on your own. This person must know that you are an individual thinker and motivated by your own means. Allow there to be a mutual understanding of this. If it doesn’t work out, there is always a lesson to be learned. You will find someone who will pursue and embrace your independence when the time is right.

This is your time to discover more about who you are and what you want. Stay out late, dance around in the kitchen, and take that road trip. Whether you’ve longed to travel to another country or start your own blog, just go for it. This is an ideal period to grow in your personal life as well as in your career. Set strong goals for your work life. Know what you want, go out to get it, and don’t let anyone or anything stop you. Whatever may inspire you – do it and do it well. Stay inspired by the things and people that surround you. Lead and inspire others in your independence. Be a go-getter and don’t stop for anyone. Your passion for life will embolden others to follow in your footsteps.

To the independent woman – do not change for anyone nor let others convince you that being independent is a downfall. This is simply far from the truth. Independence is to be used to your advantage. Be overly-ambitious and curious, taking on adventure with full-force. Experience new things and put yourself out there. Settle for more – you deserve it and this is the ideal time to pursue it.

Jennifer D.
Jennifer Duplessie is a senior at Texas A&M University pursuing a Bachelor of Science degree in Political Science. After graduation, she hopes to pursue a career in political communications incorporating her passion for writing and photography.

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