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Being an introverted woman undeniably has its perks – we are strong, independent-minded women after all.  Both introverted and extroverted women have their strengths and weaknesses and it’s vital to be aware of both. While we should embrace our introverted side, there are a few things to keep in mind on a daily basis.

As a young girl, I had always been the quiet one. I would usually keep a single friend who would stick to my side like glue. I felt timid in large groups and never quite stepped outside of my comfort zone. I would ask myself questions such as “why I wasn’t as funny as others” or “why I didn’t have many friends?” Until my recent years in college, I would catch myself doing this quite often. While some introverts do this, it is utterly destructive to the human mind. After some soul searching, it came to me – being introverted didn’t have to hold me back.

1) It’s perfectly okay to want to be alone. However, when this gets in the way of creating new relationships or pursuing ample opportunities, it becomes unhealthy. If there’s one thing that I have learned in college, it’s how important it is to have true girlfriends. When I began to grow apart from my high school friends, I realized how few friends I had in college. While it’s normal to grow out of friendships, be sure that you’re creating new ones as well. Whether you’re going through a breakup or simply want advice on a new outfit, your girlfriends will be the ones there for you. Create these relationships and cherish them.

2) As much as we’d like for them to, relationships usually do not fall into our laps. Like all things worth having, they require hard work. There is endless opportunity on campus to attend social events and to join organizations. You will most likely connect with others through common interests, so join as many organizations as your schedule may allow. While keeping a small circle of close friends is ideal, it’s a vital learning opportunity to meet a wide range of people.

3) Your personal growth begins at the end of your comfort zone. If you want something, go and get it. Whether this is asking for a raise at work or applying for a leadership position, no one is going to do it for you. Stop telling yourself that you’re “not the one for the job” or that something “just isn’t your thing”. You don’t know if something is your thing until you give it a try. Take on new projects and opportunities willingly. No one is stopping you but yourself.

4) While it’s healthy to socialize and have many relationships, it’s also vital to have your alone time. You most likely get your energy from taking time to yourself. Put aside time to reflect and rejuvenate, but know when it’s time to get back in the game.

Be aware of these downfalls while embracing your introverted characteristics. Make friends that will understand this and challenge you to be a better version of yourself. While it feels as if you can take on the world alone, allow new relationships and opportunities to enter your life. Go after things that make you uncomfortable. Take each day on with strength, courage, and humility. Allow others to love you for who you are, and give everything a chance at least once. From one introverted woman to another, I can say that I’ve had my strongest moments of growth not in my bedroom, but out in the world doing things that have had significant meaning. I have made some of my best friends from simply introducing myself. Do something that would make your younger self proud. Embrace your independence and move boldly towards whatever life has to offer.

Jennifer D.
Jennifer Duplessie is a senior at Texas A&M University pursuing a Bachelor of Science degree in Political Science. After graduation, she hopes to pursue a career in political communications incorporating her passion for writing and photography.

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