The marriage rate in America has recently hit a record low and can be expected to continue to decline. The Pew Research Center recently reported that one-fourth of millennials are expected to never get married at all. Many factors, such as hard economic times, contribute to such a change. However, the fact of the matter is that many people, especially young men, are more hesitant to commit to marriage than they used to be.  A complaint that I regularly hear from young women is that they cannot find a man who is willing to commit to them.  They might go on a few dates with a man, but it seems that many young women struggle to find a man who is as focused on getting married in the near future as they are. Why are men becoming less and less willing to commit to marriage?  Could radical feminism play a role in such a trend? I personally believe that it does.

Radical feminism is constantly teaching women that men are the enemy.  Men cannot be trusted – they are violent, they are aggressive, and they are constantly benefitting from society while women are struggling to fight “the patriarchy.”  Armed with this new attitude, women push men away in an attempt to take them down, leaving them with no place in a relationship, a marriage, or a home.  Men are tired of being told that they are the problem.  They are tired of constant attacks on the male gender as a whole that only pertain to a very small portion of men.  They are tired of being told that every single time that a woman is unhappy, every single time that she doesn’t get what she wants, it’s a man’s fault.  A woman doesn’t get the promotion she wanted?  Blame the patriarchy!  It’s a never ending cycle of getting blamed for literally everything that is pushing men away from wanting to spend the rest of their life with a woman.

Radical feminists claim to be all about equality, but the area where men are discriminated against the most – divorce and custody laws – they won’t even mention.  If you get a divorce, and you’re a man, you’ll be lucky to see your children every other weekend.  A woman basically has to be on hard drugs or be extremely abusive in order to lose her children.  For a man to get even equal time with his children is near impossible.  Then, money comes into play.  Say that you’re a man and your wife has been a stay at home mother for five years, during which you have financially supported her.  If she ups and leaves you one day, or you get divorced for whatever reason, do you think that she’s going to want to give up her lifestyle?  Probably not. You’ll be paying child support, alimony, and may have to give up some of your assets, such as your home.  Many states have child support laws that drastically favor women.  For example, in my home state of Illinois, the non-custodial parent has to pay 20% of their monthly income to the custodial parent.  It doesn’t matter if the father is working at Taco Bell and the mother is a millionaire.  It doesn’t matter if the father is the one footing the bill for school, cell phones, school supplies, etc. It’s a blanket law that does not consider the multitude of factors at hand.

Basically, there is no incentive for men to get married anymore.  The divorce rate is around 42%, according to The Institute for Family Studies.  If you get married, theoretically, there is a 42% chance you will get divorced.  If you’re a man, and you’re part of that 42%, you will lose everything: your children, your money, your home.  Why risk it?  Why even bother?  With today’s hookup culture, there are plenty of women who are willing to date casually or hookup with you.  Why get married?  You can get the benefits of a relationship without worrying that one day, you’ll lose everything.

Perhaps if radical feminists want to fight for equality, they should focus on the fact that men are drastically discriminated against in marriage, divorce, and child custody battles.  When men aren’t faced with the prospect of losing everything they’ve worked for if their wife decides to leave them, perhaps they will be more interested in getting married.

*The opinions expressed in this column are the author’s own and do not necessarily reflect the view of the FFL organization.*


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