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One of my biggest pet peeves is when I scroll through Twitter, Instagram, or Facebook and see a post from someone bragging about how she is a b**** and has stopped caring about being nice to people. I do not know when this change in acceptable behavior happened.  We need to hit rewind and take a serious look in the mirror. Is being negative and resentful really what we want in life? I, for one, still believe in treating everyone fairly, with respect, and with an attitude of positivity and compassion. We get it.  You have been hurt.  You have been taken advantage of. All of us have. In no way should you spread your pessimism around and continue the cycle of negativity.

Other posts I see over and over again that bring my blood to a boil are those concerning quality versus quantity of friendship. I am all for making sure your friends are truly there for you.  I am also big on making sure I am always there for others. To limit yourself to believe that you can only have one, two, maybe three, real friends closes you off to reaching out and caring for others, as well as allowing others to care for you. You cannot allow one bad apple to spoil the whole bunch. After being hurt, it can be very hard to justify opening yourself up to others and being vulnerable again. To completely shut yourself off to others, and moreover, to glorify and celebrate this negative attitude does nobody any favors. This world has become a very dark, pessimistic place.  That does not need to be multiplied by a social media trend of bitter acidity.

If anyone were to ever ask me for one piece of advice, it would be to be happy and appreciate life.  It is the only one you get. It is not easy to wake up every morning and tell yourself that you can be happy.  It can be hard to enjoy the day no matter what it has to offer you. I had to fight very hard for this mentality, just as everyone who shares it has had to. Since developing this state of mind, though, I am a happier, more positive person.  It overflows into all aspects of my life. I am not saying I never become upset, bitter, or angry. Ask any of my friends or family members.  They will be quick to tell you that I do. However, after I realized that being angry and bitter at the world was not the way to live life – despite what society tries to tells me – I am able to recover so much faster and not hold onto bitterness.

A great blessing that a positive lifestyle has given me is the ability to weed out toxic people in my life – the people like I mentioned before that decide they only want one or two friends, and forget about everyone else. The same people that believe that acting stone cold and heartless is an okay way to live life. When you were a little girl, did you look up to the men and women who were angry, upset, and bitter at the world, or did you look up to the men and women who embraced every aspect of life? My guess is the latter. Be the person that you looked up to as a child. I will leave you with the very famous words from one of my role models, Audrey Hepburn: “I believe that happy girls are the prettiest girls.”

Jessie Bee
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