I’m going to let you in on a little secret. There a few rules that every bride wishes her guests would abide by. As I just recently got married, I am going to be the “bridezilla” and fill you in on what these rules are so you aren’t “that” person. You’re welcome! 

Do not text the bride in the days leading up to the wedding or day of.

The bride is already stressed enough. Do your best to avoid stressing her out any more. In my case, I told everyone that I was “closed” for the week before my wedding. I wasn’t going to deal with people texting me to clarify the time of the ceremony that is clearly on the invite and on the wedding website. I wasn’t going to deal with “can I bring so and so?” And I certainly wasn’t going to be a parking spot director. 

Do not show up late to the wedding.

This is incredibly rude and takes moments away from the ceremony. The loud doors, shuffling, or even the photo-bombing is unacceptable. As a rule of thumb, arrive at the venue 30 minutes before the wedding. Then, head in 15-20 minutes before the ceremony is set to begin.

Don’t take pictures while the bride is walking down the aisle.

Chances are that the bride has spent a lot of money on a photographer and that photographer’s entire job is capturing this moment. Please don’t ruin it by bringing out your own phone and risking the noise of the phone, the flash, or ruining the picture. Let the photographer capture the moment. 

Don’t linger at wedding ceremony venue after the wedding.

If the wedding is in a different place than the reception, this is applicable. After the ceremony, the couple and their family are taking pictures at that time and signing important documents. Distracting and taking the family away from what needs to be done can eat into the cost and time of the day.

Don’t disturb the bride and groom while they eat.

The bride and groom must eat the food at their reception. Give them space to enjoy their time as a newly married couple. Give them a few minutes as they enjoy their first meal as man and wife. They need their energy to enjoy the rest of the fesitivites!

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Do dance like nobody’s watching, because they aren’t.

I am not the best dancer in the world, but I went crazy at my wedding. My favorite part of that wedding is all the other people who were dancing with me. None of us were good dancers, but we had the best time. No one is going to remember you, the bad dancer, at someone else’s wedding.

Do bring a gift.

It doesn’t have to be a big check or an expensive gift. In fact, a card is welcomed. In my case, I have re-read the cards over and over already. 

Don’t wear white or the wedding party’s color.

Please don’t be the person to wear white to someone else’s wedding. Just don’t do it. Use your discretion with the wedding party color. Some brides mind and some brides don’t. 

Do give the bride and groom notable food allergies you have.

Yes, we want you to enjoy our wedding and that also means enjoying our food! Allergies with gluten, eggs, peanuts, and more need to be addressed. Tell the bride and groom early on.

Don’t leave early unless you have a good reason.

Yes, I’m sure you’re tired and I’m sure you’re ready to take off your shoes, but staying at the reception is so important. It’s a big moment to wave the couple off as they head away. Being there for that final moment shows the bride and groom know that you are really there to celebrate them.

Do introduce yourself to the people sitting at your table.

No matter if it’s assigned seating or not, introduce yourself to anyone you might not know at your table 

Enjoy your time at the wedding and celebrate the couple. Take a look around the venues. Enjoy the details that the couple put a lot of work into and be the best wedding guest you can be. 

Happy wedding season.

Caroline C.
FFL Cabinet Member
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