I was raised to believe that a woman can do anything she sets her mind to, and never liked the idea of restricting her options. In that spirit, I always thought that, if a woman didn’t want to have children, she could terminate her pregnancy. When I entered my early teens and began to understand what abortion was, I couldn’t believe that any person would argue with taking a woman’s choice to carry a child away. I heavily sympathized with mothers who were poor and had little access to any healthcare. It was frightening to imagine a child growing up in difficult living conditions. There is a heavy responsibility that it may take for a father or mother to provide for their child. When I turned on the news and saw lawmakers fighting over the defunding of Planned Parenthood and the overturn of Roe vs. Wade, I often asked myself how these men could ever understand what it would be like to be in such a difficult situation. How could someone not sympathize with a woman facing the challenge of going through a pregnancy she didn’t want, or couldn’t afford to have?

It’s easy to sympathize with that side in the seemingly never-ending debate on whether or not abortion should be more restricted or even outlawed completely. However, there’s another side to the debate that isn’t discussed often. It is one that I wasn’t exposed to until only about a year ago. I realized the extreme dis-empowerment that surrounds the pro-choice movement. A common argument used by pro-choice advocates is that an unexpected pregnancy can be detrimental to a woman’s future. They argue that an unplanned pregnancy has the potential to be expensive, time consuming, and career damaging. This creates the idea that unexpected motherhood is a set up for failure. Many pro-choice activists believe abortion is the best path to avoid the challenges and expenses that come with pregnancy and parenting.  The truth is, no human grows up with perfect circumstances. When we are born, we are living in a broken world from the beginning. It doesn’t mean that we do not have any chance of having a happy and successful life. The difficulties of life that each individual struggles with make us the strong people we are. 

When a woman terminates a pregnancy, she is destroying any opportunities for her child to grow up, be successful, and change the lives of many people. Each child that is conceived has a purpose. Once I understood this, I realized that, while the pro-choice movement is fighting for a mother’s right to choose, they are also fighting to destroy any chance for unborn girls, and boys, to have any positive impact in the world. Let me remind you that you can do anything you set your mind to. Do not let any situation you are faced with determine your level of prosperity. Becoming pregnant does not mean that you will never accomplish the goals you have set. Unplanned pregnancy doesn’t have to take away your opportunity to attain the life you want. It is not easy, but by allowing your child a chance at life, you are already giving your child everything it needs to be successful; life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness.

Rachel P