Growing up, I was convinced that it was my life’s goal to follow in my mom’s footsteps as sorority girl. In fact, I was dead set on which sorority I wanted to be in. Now, I am a college graduate and didn’t join a sorority.

Guess what?

I’m okay with it.

I respect the pride of sorority sisters and how much they’ve gotten from it. I understand all the perks of sororities and all of the good they do. Sororities are so charitable and truly do some amazing work, but I don’t think they often realize how preachy it feels and how it feels as though we are being spoken down to. At the end of the day, it just wasn’t for me.

If I’m being honest, I transferred schools during the middle of my sophomore year. At my new school, there wasn’t a spring rush. When I was contemplating rushing that fall, I didn’t want to be a junior rushing with freshmen. I ditched the idea and didn’t look back.


A sorority can be a big financial commitment. For some, it’s not doable and you know what, that’s okay. There are plenty of organizations on campus that offer a lot of networking opportunities and close-knit friendships.

It’s also is a big time commitment. In my case, I would have definitely had to put parts of my life and goals on hold to have been able to commit the kind of time that is necessary. It’s definitely not impossible, as many young women tackle it, but it is something to consider.

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Also, to me, it felt incredibly judgmental. I know that’s not true in all cases, but rushing and trying to earn your stripes can kind of feel like that. 

Many sorority women constantly mention that it helps with networking. While this is 100% true, you can also develop connections outside of a sorority. You can join clubs at your school or even just spend your time volunteering in whatever sphere you would like to be in.

At the end of the day, you are not less of a person for not being in a sorority. There are many pros and cons to being a sorority. It truly depends on what kind of person who you are and what suits you best. It is okay to just join clubs and feel out what you want to do.

Sometimes, I admit, I have major FOMO seeing pictures of sororities and their sisterhoods, but at the end of the day, I chose not to join and I am okay with that.

Fellow GDI’s, here’s to you.

Caroline C.
FFL Cabinet Member
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