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I admit it: I’ve been notorious for putting too much on my plate. Whether it’s working long hours, taking too many classes, or trying to please everyone at once, I have long aimed for perfection in all areas of life. While this may seem like a noble goal, it often only ends in exhaustion and disappointment. This morning when I missed all of my morning classes due to extreme exhaustion and stress, I realized just this. I was forced to confront the fact that I was simply doing too much.  It had taken a tremendous toll on my wellbeing. If you are a woman who aims to do absolutely everything, this is a message for you.

1) Self-care should come first. You cannot perform your best in anything if your health is lacking. It is your own responsibility to make sure that you eat well, rest enough, and are staying active. Remember that your brain needs a break once in a while. Find your niche for the ultimate relaxation session.  Put aside time each day for you. When you allow your mind and body to relax, you will feel much more prepared to take on whatever needs to get done that day.

2) If you are one who tries to do everything, chances are that you try to make everyone happy as well. We may aim to please others at the cost of our own happiness.  While it’s essential to dedicate time to the important people in your life, it is not your job to make others happy. Putting this burden on yourself will only become increasingly exhausting. Your loved ones will understand that you are only human.

3) You must admit to yourself that it is possible to take on too much. No matter how hard we may try to be involved in a plethora of organizations, classes, leadership positions, and jobs, it ultimately becomes unrealistic. Being interested in many things is a tremendous quality, however we must make decisions when it comes to prioritizing. Create pro and con lists when deciding whether to add one more thing to your plate. If it will cause you stress and exhaustion, consider opting out of it. Learning to say no to unhealthy things is not a weakness, but rather a strength.

4) When you put too many things on your to-do list for the day, you will end up disappointed when you cannot finish them all. It is necessary to be productive and efficient with your time, but keep in mind to be practical when delegating tasks for the day. Aim for quality over quantity; do better with less versus doing poorly with more.

5) So, maybe it is time to do less. Instead of over-filling your plate, fill it just enough. Know the distinction between challenging yourself and overworking yourself. Do take on challenging tasks that allow you to grow and strive as an individual. Do not take on things that will cause stress and exhaustion with little to no benefit in outcome.

To the woman who tries to do everything – do what you love and love yourself while doing so. Learn to say no, take care of yourself, and challenge yourself just enough. Doing more does not always mean doing better.

Jennifer D.
Jennifer Duplessie is a senior at Texas A&M University pursuing a Bachelor of Science degree in Political Science. After graduation, she hopes to pursue a career in political communications incorporating her passion for writing and photography.

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