When you get engaged to your significant other, it is an extremely exciting time. However, your relationship will soon begin to change in ways that you do not realize. These changes, as great as they are, are eye opening, and I wish someone had told me these before my fiance and I got engaged. We got engaged in January 2019 and will get married in June 2020. I am so thankful for the extra time for my fiance and I to prepare mentally, spiritually and relationally for this new chapter in our lives. Here’s five things that change once you get engaged.  

The finances get real.

Once you get engaged, your financial situation changes entirely. Your focus is no longer on what trip you are planning with your girlfriends, but what can you save each month so you can put a down payment down in X amount of years. Additionally, you have to be open with your fiance about your financial situation as once you get married, your assets become one.

Your relationship will change. 

I thought that my relationship with my fiance would not change once we got engaged as we were already living together. Boy, was I wrong. Our relationship has changed tremendously. One of the biggest changes I have noticed is that there is not an exit anymore when things get hard. You no longer have the possibility of leaving when things get hard. 

You have to split your time between families.

Once you get engaged, and eventually married, you gain another family, which is great. When gaining a family, you also have to realize that you now have to split the time you previously spent with your family on holidays. Your family wants to see you just as much as your fiance’s family.

You become your fiance’s first call, and they become yours.

When something happens, your fiance is your first call. No matter if the situation is having a flat tire or nailing a job interview, your fiance is your first call. They are your life partner, and need to be the first informed about situations that impact both of you. 

Your spiritual relationship matters even more.

A marriage will only be successful if you have a Christ centered relationship. When you are straying from your relationship with Christ, you will stray from your partner. Try to find a church, and go as often as possible. My fiance and I pray for each other every night, and it has made a difference. When you know that your partner is praying for you, anything is possible. 

Kallie B
When Kallie is not working full time trying to raise money, she is often studying how people process political messages. Powered with 2 undergraduate degrees, 1 graduate degree and now working towards a Ph.D., she has dived into the world of political communication and psychophysiological research. She is a 5th generation Texan, and has been in politics since she was 8 years old.