Ron Stoppable may be been the reason why thousands of girls yearly face the awkward situation of having an attempted escapee of the friend zone. Then face the even worse situation of dealing with people’s opinion of you putting the escapee back in the friend zone. Media, society, books, even the cartoons we watched as a child all have painted a picture of the friend zone that is not only wrong, but isn’t fair to women.
Media is full of romantic comedies and TV shows that tell young men in particular that if they are that nice, that supportive, that much better than the other men around them that then the girl of their dreams will certainly pluck them out of the friend zone they’ve been confined in because they deserve it.
On one hand, the friend zone isn’t a myth. There is in fact a type of boy or girl that is specifically a friend and nothing more and who will stay in that platonic friendship zone, even if they want otherwise. But, it shouldn’t be used as something to guilt trip an individual into dating someone they did not want to date in the first place.
While history and even our personal lives can tell us that there is a real possibility that dating a friend is one way to a happy relationship, it still doesn’t change the fact that no one deserves anything romantically from anyone else. The sweetest guy walking the face of the earth doesn’t deserve to be anyone’s boyfriend or husband just because they have managed to be kind or supportive. That should be called just human decency and manners.
Unfortunately, how society views and treats the friend zone has taught young women that our standards should be so low that kindness is enough to earn our heart’s and hand. Someone being there for us in times of need, complimenting us, or simply not being a jerk should be all we need to decide that a man is worth dating. Not only does this give men the expectation that being kind comes with a reward, it promotes an even more toxic idea.