In her newest memoir, former Governor and UN Ambassador Nikki Haley details her time working as a member of President Trump’s cabinet and fighting to restore dignity to the United States in the United Nations. However, the former ambassador also gives words of advice on standing up for yourself, fighting gracefully, and defying our differences to come together as Americans. All quotes are taken from ​With All Due Respect: Defending America with Grit and Grace, available here​.

On winning

“I found a message in a fortune cookie that night guided me for the rest of the race and all races since: ​Winners do what losers don’t want to.” (pg 71)

Choose your battles

“Whenever I can, I check my immediate instinct to respond…In the heat of the moment, things run through your head. Emotions run wild, and your instincts are soft. Waiting twenty-four hours allows you to pick and choose your battles.” (pg 108)

Resist divisiveness

“We have to resist the forces that are pulling us apart, whether they are coming from the left or the right. Because it is our values…that tie us together as Americans.” (pg 171)

Don’t let labels define you

“We are all much more than the sum of our labels.” (pg 174)

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On being ambitious

“Pushing through your fear and being successful has a downside though, especially for women. You can expect to be labeled with the ‘A’ word: ‘ambitious.’…But if being ambitious is being good at your job, then fine, you can call me ambitious. I will just consider myself a badass.” (pg 175)

On being a woman

“Especially if you’re a woman, you have to stand up for yourself. Always. You don’t have to be ugly about it. You should do it with grit and grace.” (pg 182)

On being a conservative woman

“We are strong. We are careful about the work we do. And no, we don’t get confused.” (pg 183)

Push through the fear

“Everyone needs to remember that when you push through the fear, you change lives. When you pull back, you never know what could have been.” (pg 247)

Handle yourself with grace

“You can say almost anything with both strength and dignity if you start with, ‘With all due respect.’” (pg 248)

Sylvia is a Dallas native and currently a junior at Southern Methodist University, majoring in political science and journalism. She loves books, tea, politics, and The Bachelor.

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