On July 25, the BBC posted an article titled “Forced penetration: If a woman forces a man to have sex, is that rape?” Under English and Welsh laws, men can not be raped, but a study that was conducted says that it should be.

As a sexual assault victim advocate, it is 100% possible for a man to be raped. Women can force men to have sex. Men can force men to have sex. It doesn’t matter what way you slice it. If consent is not given or consent can not be given, then it is rape. 

As a person with common sense, it is 100% possible for a man to be raped. Being drunk means you can not legally give consent. It should be the same for a man. Men can also be coerced to do things the same way women can. This isn’t that hard of a concept.

Except that it is. 

Men are less likely to report their victimization because they often are met with questions like “what man wouldn’t enjoy that?” or “you must have enjoyed it or you would’ve gone to the police and reported it.” 

There is a big stigma against men who are sexually assaulted. There shouldn’t be. Men can be as easily taken advantage of as women. Men, like women, may not even realize they’ve been assaulted due to the charm and forced desire upon them. 

I don’t care if you’re male, female, trans, white, black, brown, purple, yellow, orange, straight, bi-sexual, pan-sexual, a-sexual, Christian, Muslim, Jewish; if you can not give consent, then that is rape. 

Laws should be changed across the board. The stories of those who have been raped shouldn’t have to fear sharing that story.

If you or someone you know is in need of crisis intervention services, contact the National Sexual Assault Hotline 24/7 at 1-800-656-4673 for confidential, free assistance or visit their website here.

Caroline C.
FFL Cabinet Member
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